Saturday, March 26, 2011

Saturday, March 19, 2011

If a Man Wants You...

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that's not meant to be.
Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you
deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends."
A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better."
You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant,
Why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything.
He will use it against you later.

You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job.
Do not make him into a quasi-god.
He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.

Never borrow someone else's man.
If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.

You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two way street.
You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute
about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship
consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.

Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him- he takes it for granted.
Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man.

Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.
Keep him in your radar but get to know others
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them and an entire lifetime to forget them.

**A good friend sent this to me a long time ago. I don't know who wrote this, but I am thankful that they did.


Saturday, March 12, 2011


I am furious! This has been awful week. You may not realize it, but I am a sweet person. No seriously. I go out of my way to make people happy. I love making people smile. What does it get me? Nothing. NOT A DAMN THING.

I really don't help others for recognition. I help others because it makes me feel good, but for some reason I always get burned because of it. This has happened to me before. You would think I had learned my lesson. I have now. No more helping anyone else at work. Ever. I'm done.

I'm not even going to go into detail because it will stress me out. When I retire I will. When I retire this blog will blow the fuck up. I'm going to name names and tell ALL. No one is safe.


Saturday, March 5, 2011


This has been a stressful week. The passage of Senate Bill 5 in Ohio, the staff morale in our building is at an all time low, plus I have to make a retirement decision soon. Governor Kasich  is ruining lives. This man has effectively depressed millions of public employees and their family and friends with one stupid plan. A plan that will not even balance Ohio's budget. Mark my words, Ohio will be a ghost town by 2015.

Fortunately I had something to look forward to at the end of the week. A little tradition our group of friends refer to as GNO, "Girls Night Out". We've been having these nights out for the past year and a half. There is always some sort of theme. We've had "Hawaiian Night", "Pizza, Pjs, and Porn", "Pure Romance", "Dance Party", "Bruta Fest", etc. Last night was "Welcome Home Rachel K." Our nights can be mild to wild, but always fun. Here's a snapshot of Rachel K and me enjoying ourselves at GNO.